On Saturday we visited the Slate Run Historic Farm in Canal Winchester, OH. Roosters, birds, sheep, pigs, piglets, and cattle all greeted us we entered the farm. The cows were making a lot of noise, and to my untrained ear, sounded upset and angry. So, we asked a volunteer who was walking a young calf to a different field what was going on. He shared that it was calf weaning day, which means it was the day that they separated the calves from the herd.
One mother telling us how she felt about this practice:
And here is another mother sharing a similar concern with us:
As we were leaving the farm we could hear the cows talking to their calves over the 200+ yards of separation. They couldn’t see each other, but they were clearly communicating with one another. And then one of the calves paused and started to eat:
Change isn’t easy for any of us to deal with, but it is a fact of life. No matter how much we want control, or think we’ve achieved control over our lives, something will happen that takes us from one place to another, and we have a choice about how to respond.
I’m not saying that the calf made a choice to move on, but an analogy does come to mind. Just as the calf feeds upon the grass during a time of change, we feed our attention during times of change. If we feed the sadness or failed expectation with our attention, we’ll continue in the awareness of disappointment or happiness. However, if we make a choice to feed awareness without expectation we might find that things will be okay. Not what we expected, or perhaps wanted, but okay.