I sometimes think too much about things that are small. I can spin on quick, seemingly irrelevant interactions with others. And I suspect I’m not alone.
Like the other day when the person less than 3-feet in front of me, who’d recently passed me, didn’t hold the door. One of the those heavy doors that snaps back hard when you let go. You know the kind.
I get it – this is no big deal – it’s a small thing, but it pissed me off. Yes, I got over it and in the big scheme of things it’s nothing, but there was an impact, not only to the finger I stubbed, but to my mood.
Small things do matter. How we interact in the world, with each other, resonates through the world in ways that we don’t understand, recognize, or can see. If he’d taken an extra five seconds to hold the door for a stranger, that simple act would’ve made a difference. At best, I’d have received a mood bump. At worst, I’d have taken his act for granted. Either way, it would not have given me the opportunity to make a bad choice (yep – no matter what he did, I made the choice to get pissed).
This is one very small, simple interaction. Think about all the interactions we have every day. Many of these interactions are much more significant.
Take an extra 5 seconds to hold the door for a stranger, sometimes it is the simple things that count.
I know that if the person in front of me would’ve taken the time to do this (and had I made a different choice in reacting) I’d have started my day differently. Interactions with others matter – big or small. I’ll take the challenge and try to become a better person today. How about you?
Picture from Etiquette Tips, Bring It Back Now!.